Did you know you can choose your feelings? I know it's crazy. We are women, after all, so we eat, breath, and live our emotions. But for real. I have this conversation with my kids all the time. No one else is responsible for your responses and reactions, but you. That is a little harsh right. I'm not too fond of it either because it means that I have to bear the burden of guilt. It means that I have to be accountable. I hate being accountable. Did you know that you are trained at a young age to react the way you do to things? How you perceive the world affects how you respond to it so if you want to change how you behave in situations, you have to change your perception.
Here's an example we use with my daughter all the time. She has three brothers, and they are difficult at times. They pick on her, tease her, and push every button she has. She can't avoid them, that would be the easiest thing to do, but she can choose to see things differently. The other day we had a discussion about her brother calling her stupid. (I'm not saying he was right and I had a stern talking to with him as well) But I had to deal with how she handles it too which was screaming at him like someone had cut her arm off and smacked her with it. We asked her why it affected her so strongly? She said because it hurt her feelings. I asked her why it hurt her feelings. She responds that it's mean. I told her it wouldn't hurt her feelings unless she already believed it to be true. You see bullies always find our insecurities and exploit them. Let me explain. She wouldn't have gotten her feelings hurt if he called her a chair. A chair is inanimate. She would think he was ridiculous. But because he chooses and insecurity and pushed that little red button it set her off.
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